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Instead of avoiding you, he might suddenly develop a strange new desire to shower you with gifts and an unusual amount of affection.
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Although an unexpected present every now and then is no cause for concern, if he's doing it in a manner that does not fit his character, it might mean he's trying to make up for something he feels guilty about. Treating you like royalty is his way of clearing his conscience, and it should set off alarms when it comes out of nowhere. If your boyfriend has a history of falling for others while he's still in a relationship, there's no reason to expect it to stop now that he's with you. Think back to the start of your relationship together.
Was there another woman in the picture then? Was he still in a relationship that he downplayed as empty and meaningless? Was he secretive about his past? If your own experiences tell you he has a history of being unfaithful or his friends and ex-girlfriends say so, watch out. If he's in love with someone else, he might have told some of his closest friends about it. As a result, although they will keep his secret around you, their behavior toward you might change. Owing to their experience, married men understand the emotional needs and desires of women better than their single counterparts.
If you have convinced yourself that his family would never come to know about it, think again. If they do, you would have to deal with the guilt of inflicting emotional pain on his spouse and kids, besides hurting yourself. It's important to consider that there are many people involved in your relationship, than just the two of you.
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Also, dating a man who's married may entail many restrictions such as not being seen in public places together or being with him only when he can find free time away from his family or sneak out and meet you. Even more difficult can be living with the bitter truth that you are sharing him with his wife. Samvedna Thakur name changed on request , 27, who works in an advertising agency in Delhi claims, "I have been dating a married man for the last two years.
We work in the same office. I've tried to break up with him several times but have failed in doing so. I am aware of the consequences if his wife finds out about our relationship. I also know that I am his second priority, but I am so emotionally attached to him that I'm not even being able to find an eligible man for myself and get married.
We have been together for a year. Recently, he confessed to me that he's married and is not happy with his present relationship. He said he doesn't want to cheat on me, but can't divorce his wife either. I've been trying to forget him since then and call off the relationship, but I am not being able to do so. Arvinder Singh, a psychotherapist and consultant says, "There is usually a lot of guilt associated with such relationships.
So, when you are in a relationship with a married man, it's important to analyse the emotional need that the man is being able to satisfy.
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Then see if you can get it elsewhere, apart from the married man. It's important to have a support system, otherwise it can be even more damaging for the woman as it could be emotionally taxing.
An important question that you need to ask yourself is - 'Why is he in a relationship with you despite having a family? It is important to evaluate and assess the benefits and drawbacks of such a relationship. You may be hoping that your man will leave his family for you so that you both can live happily ever after Assess whether the man you are dating is pursuing the relationship because he loves you or he just because he wants to take advantage of you.
Poonam Tiwari name changed on request , 34, who works with a multi-national company in Noida adds, "I am in love with a married man who has a son. I am married too and have a daughter.
Mine was an arranged marriage, but after a year, lot of differences started creeping into our relationship. I met this man though a common friend and realised that he was the one for me. Being a wife and a mother, it isn't correct on my part to be dating a married man and giving up on my marriage, but I think our ultimate goal in life is to be happy, isn't it? What's the use of being in a relationship that gives you pain and suffering? The emotional turmoil While some women dating married men may find happiness eventually, most of these relationships end up leaving you feeling lonely, used and neglected.
A relationship exists because of mutual trust and commitment. In extra-marital affairs, you can't expect to get any of these. Most women know it by instinct, but not surprisingly many fall for it. You may find yourself alone more often than you'd like because his family will always come first. Moreover, if he is cheating on his wife to be with you, what's going to stop him from cheating on you? I met her even before I got married and proposed to her. But she said she wasn't in love with me. So, I didn't tell my parents about her and they fixed my marriage with another girl.
Gradually, she realised that she loved me, but it was too late to call off the wedding. I am happy with my marriage, but can't forget my ex.
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I continue to meet her even today and I still love her. I am in a dilemma, but I can't divorce my wife as it would be very embarrassing for my family," says Gaurav Mehrotra name changed on request , 30, working as a sales manager in Indore. Mostly, in such relationships, the people involved are quite vulnerable. They might choose their words carefully so as not to give anything away, or they might stop communicating with you altogether. This might indicate they know enough to understand you won't have a part in his life much longer. Spencer Hendricks has written for various well-regarded blogs.
His work has appeared in the "Kickapoo Prairie News" and online at sprayahen. He is currently in the process of obtaining a degree in Web development. Meet Singles in your Area! He Avoids You If he suddenly makes less time for you and dodges the issue when you bring it up, it might indicate he's spending his time with a new woman. He Bribes You Instead of avoiding you, he might suddenly develop a strange new desire to shower you with gifts and an unusual amount of affection. It's Happened Before If your boyfriend has a history of falling for others while he's still in a relationship, there's no reason to expect it to stop now that he's with you.
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