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Men love to use Instagram and Twitter as their own personal dating profiles. Every single time I post a photo of myself that is in any sense sexual or sensual, I will receive numerous messages from men. These men could be men from my past or complete strangers and often are. A good rule of thumb is: Hire a dominatrix for that.
Many millennial men expect women they barely know to fulfil their every need. Women are not an emotional and sexual void on the internet! This is probably one of the biggest turn-offs ever. We all are busy. Why should I be at your beck and call? If she wants to respond to you, she will. In this society people who are assigned female at birth AFAB are often socialized to give people their time and be polite to people who are bothering them. This is especially true if you live in the same city and run in the same social circles. So please, do us all a favor and take a hint: If you're not in a position to pay a monthly fee to use a dating site or app, that's totally fine.
But for those of you who have money to blow on frivolous purchases but who are still using free sites, it's worth asking why you don't do yourself a favor and invest a little in your dating experience. Using a reputable paid site, like one of the well-reviewed ones below, can save you a lot of hassle in the long run — you won't have to weed out fake profiles or people who aren't looking for what you are.
Zoosk is AskMen's top-rated online dating option, and for a reason. Boasting an easy-to-use site with state-of-the-art features and a booming community of singles, it's a strong contender if you're looking for just one dating site to sign up for in your quest for love. Match is about as classic as it comes in the online dating world, as the brand has been around since the late '90s. Far from some dusty relic, however, the site has kept pace with the times and stands as one of the best of the bunch, offering users a brand name they can trust.
When someone says online dating, one of the first sites that comes to mind is OkCupid. It is estimated that there are about 30 million total users, with roughly 1 million unique users logging in every day. It goes without saying that OkCupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users. In total, I received 11 messages with visitors. Mostly, they were just guys saying hi.
A few were a little more forward, and two were straight-up aggressive. I joined February 4th, around 7 AM, and received a total of one vote, two winks, and six messages. The messages were all nice, although one user messaged me three times. PlentyofFish is perhaps the most popular online dating sites out there, with an estimated 6 million pageviews a month and 76 million users a little less than the entire population of Turkey.
In total, I received 34 messages, all of which were very nice. I never replied to any of the messages, however there were a few men who messaged me twice despite that, in an attempt to get a response. I spoke to a few friends about their experiences with online dating websites. Another simply sent me this screenshot. Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received.
He came away with the realization that women have it much, much harder on these sites:. I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.
A lot of people, including me, turned to online dating, and OkCupid was all the rage. As I was serious about finding someone, I uploaded a lot of pictures of myself, had a very thorough profile, and received a lot of attention. A lot of it was like the above. Eventually, it got to be too much and I closed my profile. First off, telling a woman about what you would like to do to her sexually without any prompting is not a compliment. Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes unless they were not discussed first. No one likes unwanted sexual advances. Are you that guy on Tinder?
Read More and send this as your first message to a woman. If you see a picture of a woman you like, take the time to read her profile. When messaging a woman without bothering to learn about her through her profile, it may come across as you not caring about her as a person — no one wants that. Make your intentions known. Finally, take no for an answer.
Try to get to know someone before meeting them. Watch for any red flags, such as disregarding your boundaries and not respecting your feelings. When going to meet someone in person, it helps to suggest you both bring along a friend. Also, be sure to meet in a public place and to stay in a public place. Casual Kiss is full of scammers, so that is a website I suggest avoiding. OkCupid is renowned for having a wide variety of users, although I received more messages and views on PlentyofFish. However, the problem with a lot of free dating websites such as these is that many of the users, the male users especially, are looking for sex.
Have you had any bad experiences with online dating? What about good experiences? Leave me a comment below and tell me about it! Online Dating , Web of Romance. Your email address will not be published. I try to help gullible and naive women by chatting for long periods with guys I know are scammers. I know all the signs. If they are chatting with me , they are not stealing from someone else. He asked for my address. He sent me messages that were rote. Then he said he was going to phone me and I freaked out and told him in a nasty way Karma was going to get him for scamming.
I lied and told him I was also married. I told him to get a real job. Next day I received a death threat with very graphic murder scenes of women. He said this was going to happen to me. What do I do now? I thought I had blocked him on whatsapp but I missed that one. Do I ignore this or go to the local police? Match was, by far, my worst scammer experience. Multiple scammers, account hacked and Match renewed membership before the expiration date. OKCupid was ok but nothing came of it. OurTime has so far been fun, communicating with a few men now. If online dating is your choice, research tell tale signs scammers use, i.
Reverse image search their photos, I have good success with Tineye. Reverse search phone numbers, emails they give you. Never give personal info. Be wary, be smart, don't be foolish. They do not love you after one day of communicating. I don't know but after 24 years of marriage and now divorced 5 years it is tough out there! I am 54 year old man and know what I want?
It is tough for both men and women. I believe being honest from both persons standpoint is extremely important. Then the pictures and profile. We all have our own expectations then meeting up that is can be awkward or a blessing. Be safe and good luck. If you know why you ended up divorced then work on fixing that problem if you can and go from there!
You can just stay single too! My biggest complaint is not the men, they are people - some are nice, some are not. I just don't respond to rude people. But the companies are the worst, I cancel my profile - they still leave it up so guys can write me, even though I don't check it anymore. And canceling is horrible- they try to convince you to stay, or even say they will stop billing, but still charge you. They are padding their numbers and people wonder why people don't answer - sometimes they aren't members anymore - it's the site that won't take them down.
And I would like to start a site where you can see messages without paying so you can see if you want to respond. And what is up with requiring people to sign up for months? That is unnecessary and exploitive. I cannot describe how much I hate the companies that own these sites - I really would like to start my own.
That is very interesting, Valerie. I was previously unaware of all of that. I am currently a member of OKCupid. I was wondering why I don't even receive a message back from a lot of the women. You are correct, I was wondering why I try and ask or just chat with ladies I am intrigued and find attractive and the noice is deafening: Not all guys are bad apples but I can understand why they should be wary.
I was married for 24 years; never abused her. Women these days are becoming faker than fake, nothing is real on them anymore. Their only primary goal in their life is to look pretty. Then it's all connected, you look pretty, find a man with wealth and possible good looks, or someone who has the alpha traits, and put up a family with them, in case it goes awry she can always claim material gain from him and most likely take the kid with them in case of divorce, because the system mostly favour the weaker, but is it really weaker sex?
No it's privileged sex. And they primarely fake their beauty, among other things. I think we've all seen by now how a potato can look like a princess with the aid of come colors and putty. They truly are shameless. Nothing is genuine about them. Sadly I have came to a point where I have almost zero respect for most them and their personality For this I will most likely never seen them as equals. I just woke up not long ago, from a sleep of reason, for my whole life I was brainwashed into beliveving what the media was telling us.
The gentle sex, the poor sex, the defenseless sex, they need, we give. But they rarely told us how truly ruthless creatures they are beneath that woman's skin there is a cold-blooded lizard. No offense to the cold-blooded lizards, because they are cooler than most women. Were will this lead us? I hope society is proud of what has done, because the war between sexes will most likely be the cause of our extincion! I stopped reading this when I got to the phrase "Women these days" I figured it was all downhill from there.
They're a lot of great ladies out there and a lot of good men also. Just weeding through the mess of cyber dating. The thing is there is absolutely too much fakery on dating sites that goes unpunished. I'm not even talking about the nasty scammers. No, besides some nasty users that infect and foreshadow the whole populace, I'm also talking about the greedy, repuslive technique these sites go for, to keep their customers. And even making you incredible discounts, begging you to stay, they are pathetic.
Well first of all this shit should all be free, nobody should profit from poor and lonely men and women with their souls laying on the floor in pieces, they are killing our love. We just want to find someone whom we'll click! Second, there is clearly a vision of economy and massive deceit behind this sites and their little detailed strategies on how to "steal" your money for everything you do on their site, nothing is free and they always think of new ways to deprive you of your money.
I can sense the economist's brainstorming all the way here. Third, it's literally brainwashing you, killing your love, feelings, humbleness. Fourth, avoid online dating like plague, and if you don't at least don't take it seriously, like it matters, until you meet in person, really don't do this like And fifth, we need customer protection, we need internet police, these scammers, as users and site owners just sholdn't be able to get away with this shit legally, no way.
What example are we setting to others?!? You are a whore. Let me explain, because of people like you, people, that are ignoring others that make an effort to contact you, and you, don't even have the decency to reply a thing - yeas because of people like you, good people also commit suicide.
She alone is the problem with online dating. Not only can I confirm that she is vain useless trash, I can rest easy knowing she will burn painfully in hell for the issues that she has caused others in her lifetime. I feel sorry for people like this, honestly. This article and some of the comments make feel like I'm way different than the norm. I never message women first. I don't have to. I get a lot of interest. No I'm nothing special and in fact I'm a portly 50 something with hair to the middle of my back.
I get a lot of women complimenting me on my profile and chatting me up. My profile only states what I'm interested in, what my hobbies are and what I won't put up with. I let the women make all the moves. They offer me their number, and they ask me out. They also are the first to start talking about their romantic interests.
I have plenty of dates and more. Not all of these women are barbie dolls but I don't care and they know it up front. I love the conversation and attention and so do they. My main goal is to come across as friendly, polite and safe. If I'm so good at this then why am I still out there? Because I have pretty high expectations and I refuse to settle for less.
I have started a few "relationships" only to find out that the woman I met wasn't the woman I was chatting with. Oh they are in the same body but someone stole the woman I was chatting with and substituted a sorry replacement. Until I find Ms right I'll keep enjoying the conversation and dating.
I'm a good looking 6'1" muscled, athletic, green eyed guy that has no trouble attracting women in real life. I have a good job, own a home want kids. I work third shift and travel a lot. After talking for a while I ask them out. This is excluding the offers from gay men who messaged me more often then women I'm not gay and not interested. At this point I have sent out well thought out messages, in other words one a night for over three months on average.
One was old enough to be my mother, I was probably in kindergarten when her picture was taken. I look young for my age so we didn't even look like a couple. Two were morbidly obese, I'm not looking for a super model but I'm also not looking for someone who can't climb a flight of stairs and is going to have major health issues, we lead completely different lifestyles, my profile states that I bicycled miles last summer and lists rock climbing, spelunking and kayaking as hobbies.
Yes, we may read the same novels, but I do it on top of that foot cliff I climbed. Thought this was the one, and asked her for a second date, She wanted to go home with me. I told he I really don't want to move that fast, I don't' sleep around but once we got to know each other better. She said she really couldn't' as he husband would be back from a work trip.. Um, seriously I think you might have mentioned that before accepting a date. I'm glad I didn't kiss her.
I have a yearly membership as a patron so no added cost to me but still. Because of my lifestyle I have a choice between online dating and being single, at this point I'm being single. I joined a site and received hundreds of requests within two days. I was polite and friendly to all but all I got was disgusting offers. I have tried multiple on line dating sites. I have found there is no such thing as a free dating site, If you use your credit card your asking for trouble at your bank.
Women only want your bank and your comments about sex are necessarily true. Women have said to me let's f It seems to be the same for all sites. Whatever happened to just meeting in public and talking. When I suggest this, the response is I am not perfect and yes I like sex, and a lot of it. But this never makes for a relationship or to me, show the thanks or appreciation I want to give to a woman.
I want to hear her opinions, ides and thoughts. But they just want my genital size and bank account size.
Nor as being innocent of their actions in seeking men. I have had some sick stuff from woman too. What do you think about all these sex sites and why so many?? If you are not looking to get laid don't go there. If you are there, don't be surprised at some of the responses. Take a look in your own mirror. I have tried several of the sites above. Oh its great if you are some well off good looking guy. But us Joe Smoes out there get inboxes full of girls but we can't look at them until we pay up.
The minute we do, suddenly no one talks to you. Online dating is for the well to do, smooth talkers, and the good looking. For guys who are genuine and respond to womens' profiles not just their pictures it would be nice to receive a reply such as, "Not feeling chemistry, but thanks for the message. The frustration of men comes from being earnest about responding thoughtfully and then getting no reply whatsoever. These men don't reply back nastily, but just accept that there won't be a reply.
But it would be nice to get a reply either way. Some of us women do write well thought out messages and the men won't respond. I wonder if these dating sites use algorithms to block matched users from seeing each other unless one of them pays up. And the longer you pay them, the fewer matches you get. I've read other comments from users who said as soon as they're about to cancel, they get better matches. Some of these end up being fake profiles created by the company or stolen accounts from previous users.
I think we're dealing with ransom level corruption with dating apps looking to turn a profit. On ok Cupid I once had a guy message me they wanted to dress up in a French maid costume and be my table. I kid you not. Interesting article but I do feel it's a bit one sided I just don't have a problem with that. For women it is a more pressing issue of safety. Anyway, I tried Match for a year.
My view is it was a total waste of money not counting the value of learning that fact. I would say I'm a good guy but then again who wouldn't. For what it's worth, my experience was reading over profiles and I couldn't even guess on how many I viewed. Most of those were dreadful tripe or just plain lazy. Despite that I ended up sending about attempts to start a conversation in hopes of finding more substance. Most of these were along the lines of "Hello, I see you like art museums.
Do you have a favorite artist or style? I'm a fan of impressionists and really like VanGogh. Would you care to talk a little? I deleted the income and everything but the Match solicitations ended. I ended with a shorter summary and no income. In the end I had 4 actual responses, about 15 read notifications without response and at least 2 solicitations from Match a day. Not a good percentage to be sure. Maybe I'm just a horrible guy but if not then I have a theory about what is going on. I'm thinking when Match started having the men pay so the women can read that the number of women with paid accounts dropped.
Interesting to me that salary was a bigger driver than summary. I guess some women are just looking for a paycheck, I just didn't realize how many on Match were. Unfortunately I was trying to find a friend and partner in life. Maybe I will someday. Hopefully my experience will help other descent guys thinking of Match. Unfortunately I still am on Match. As my subscription ended I actually found someone that was talking to me.
I didn't figure it was serious but we were talking and I liked that. I tried to send alternate means of keeping the conversation going with no luck. After the subscription ended I got several notifications of messages and finally decided it was worth the cash just to keep the pen pal. On renewing my account about 3 days I messaged her and she responded that I should renew so we could keep talking.
When I told her I already had the conversation ended and she blocked me. My suspicion is that was some form of customer retention activity but maybe I am just paranoid. At this point I have stopped messaging women. I update my profile summary periodically and wait to see if anyone has interest in me so I feel I am not aggressively seeking anything. So far nothing and I don't expect there will be any until the subscription gets close to expiring. Hopefully I finally learned my lesson on that. I love the idea of finding someone that way but it is a fairy tale from what I have seen.
Hopefully it's a fairy tale someone else gets to live. I like that idea. It's how it's been done since the dawn of man and still being done today. If you feel a computer and "profile" is some kind of required to find a truly loving relationship wishing you all the best with that attitude. I'm not saying you don't want to set yourself up, or go out to places where you could be noticed or approached. But it also happens when your not "desperately" chasing it either like people are online.
Another reason I don't favor online dating is it sets most up with this "let me look for grass that might be greener on the side" type mentality. Strong relationships are built strong, seasoned and nurtured with time and care -- there is no grass is greener on the other side. Hannah, that's exactly the type of mentality that is ruining most of relationships. You gave it a perfect name. Yes, indeed most people are not willing to sacrifice or compromise anything for a good relationship nowadays, and always going on with that "the grass may be greener on the other side" type of mentality.
Not leaning towards the troubles women go through with online dating Yes, women must be on their guard No bad women of course. I've had some success with some wonderful ladies, some are not so nice. Either a guy gets a reply from a gal he's attracted to or "cricket" If she is attractive she has the pick of the bunch. It's a crap shoot. Not all guys are bad unfortunately bad apples can ruin many. One was a sex act, one a pic of his bowel movement. I blocked him after the texts wouldn't stop.
Women please please b careful - have the long talks letting them talk more - they will tell u all u need without knowing. I never spoke about sex w this freak but he accused me of playing sex games. Terrifying that I met someone straight out a serial killer movie or criminal minds. I hope he gets locked up. Mind u this man "seemed " normal until I stopped talking to him. I was sent 2 messages by a disappointed man in his late 60's. The messages were abusive, and scared the hell out of me!!
I am no longer interested in online dating sites. Men have unrealistic expectations for women my age. And most look like serial killers. They need to learn how to take more flattering pics of themselves. I also encountered at least 6 fraudulent male profiles. Thank you for saying this. Men need to take better care of themselves and not leave it up to the women. I think this speaks of a generation of men who are used to having their mothers wait on them hand and foot.
It was like that growing up and that is the reason I'm not interested in men in their 60s. I find that men don't even look at your profile. I have alot of specifics and they still message me. I even state that I want my race,no hook up, want long term. What I'm intrested in. Yet they always ask what do you like to do. I want to know if I have any recourse or anyone to report it to. That left me devastated. He gave me he bank account and I head the large balance he has. I looked it up online. Its a real bank. Can you take a telebanking line? Not all guys are arrogant, self absorbed jerks wanting one night stands.
So, it seems all men are thrown into the same mix of dirtbags. I've dated a lot of ladies and yes I have my standards. Who wants to settle.
The gals I've dated were attractive and my ex wife was good looking. The head games played by women, empty profile or blatant ignores makes online dating a serious crapshoot. Yeah while I have some sympathy for the douches you guys have met I still feel the need to say cry me an ocean to this article. I stopped reading at the point she said she had messages and didn't reply to any of them. Yep think about that for a second and welcome to the other side of the dating game!
You know how happy I or most guys would be to have so much attention from girls on dating sites lol? Tell you what why don't you just try it from the mens side. Get a decent picture of one of your guy friends, go and read some profiles of girls you see on there, what little they put down outside of I like friends family and traveling. Now try to send them a message about something you have in common.
Then just keep a tally of every time you do that and repeat the process about times. Why times you say well because I can almost guarantee you no matter what I say she isn't going to respond. Hell I'm kind of wondering why I'm not asking women for naked pics right up front at least they get responses it would seem! Met all on Plenty of Fish: Man who dated 3 years refused to commit, I broke up.
Man who dated 6 months refused to commit, I broke up. Man who dated 3 times wanted casual sex only, he refused to spend money on dates, I stopped meeting him. Man who pressured me to move in after dating 6 weeks, couldnt get through first dissagreement , I moved out. I have met so many men online who are only interested in you until they win you over then they reject you. Or only interested in putting you in the spot to service them sexualy while they scout around for something better, thats ridiculous. He claimed he didnt want to attend church with me as he didnt want anyone to think he is married.
One agressive guy followed me out to my car once, very scarry. New flash, women dont want to sleep with strange men they just met. You dont have sex with a stranger then try to wrap a relationship around it, you create a relationahip them top it off with sex. While I agree a healthy sex life is an important part of a relationship I was shocked at the suggestion. Most guys who just want a hook up will say so but he tried insisting he really wanted a relationship, we just had to pass the good sex test first.
Then there are the guys who say they they want to meet and "just cuddle" at your place or theirs on the first date. And can't understand why there is a list of problems with this. You want to do more than just cuddle, so just say that in your profile rather than wasting a girls time. And I'm never ever going to have someone come to my place or go to their place for a first date.
I've been currently using dating sites again and right now its a living hell for me. I agree with the guy below that being alone for the past decade for me has been quite maddening. I'm a 39 year old male that lives alone in a 2 bedroom apartment, and I've never had kids. Getting severe bouts of depression every once in while and some very emotionally crushing anguish about what could have been. And the worst part is It lasted almost 4 years and was very serious that we wanted to get married. Something just clicked once we got to know each other better. And unfortunately we ended up mutually agreeing to break up due to some extremely horrible external pressure and didn't want to see each other suffer.
Nobody cheated, nobody hated the other, and it wasn't an issue with our families. Thank you economic "recession". She even wanted to find a job to keep us afloat, but due to our situation it wouldn't have been good for her being a foreign national not legally registered to work. She recently got in touch with me again after 10 years to catch up and see how I was doing. If it weren't for the fact that her life has advanced much more than mine, it would have been no trouble for us to get back together.
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The time has passed, and the clock cannot be turned back. It's been hard as hell trying to find that kind of loving and understanding relationship again. I'm not expecting the same exact thing as what I had My recent experiences on the dating website I use has been pretty pathetic. I received one direct response from what appears to have been a scammer, as their profile has been removed within a day of being put up.
I've only gotten 2 smiles one from the scammer. The one reply I received from a woman I wrote, apparently she was looking for sexual relationship only. I didn't entertain that idea any further and informed her of a site she could use to satisfy her needs if she wasn't looking for natural dating. Another woman responded to a message I initiated and while this one seemed normal I'm worried that I as a man looking for a real relationship that results in marriage, I will end dying childless.
My mother hasn't been much help as she believes that for some reason I should be able to have children when I'm I calculated my life expectancy and I told her I needed to at least no later than my early 40s as there would be another 20 years to raise a child into reasonable adulthood and not be so old when and if there may be grandchildren I'll still be able to function. No response is equal to "maybe she didn't read it or get to see it" in guy logic. Men do have more competition than women. I want to ask women Or even better yet. I've sent 39 messages in the past 3 weeks alone and only got 2 legitimate responses.
I have been on on line dating for just over a year. Unfortunately no luck so far. I have met a couple of scammers and thankfully caught on before investing too much time. I am a bit older 53 very secure and confident. I consider myself a decent, good looking woman who is fit with just a few extra pounds. In the past year I have sent messages at least men and gotten 0 responses back. I have received a lot of messages asking to " hook up" etc I have been ghosted by 3 of them when I thought the conversations were going well I have learned to listen to those little red flags that 20 years ago I would have ignored.
Yes I have had the messages straight up about sex but I just ignore those I get interests from guys that live thousands of miles away even though I clearly state I am not interested in a long distance relationship. The guys I message are ones who's profiles interest me and who I see some common interests. But as I said before, I rarely get an answer. It leaves me wondering just what are they looking for and perhaps I am just not "hot" enough for them. That's ok, I am still happy, still me, still single, just a bit perplexed but I have not given up. I was on the dating site OkCupid.
I met this Australian man who profile name was Ayapi. He was asking for sex in two minutes of talking to me. He also was on Plenty Of Fish. He have a sex website online with a lot of nude women. He was trying to get me to take nude pictures and videos. I met other scammers on OkCupid as well. One went to jail for scamming people out of money.
They don't care who use their site. It's a danger for the women and for some men. Online dating has NEVER worked for me, even when I was serious about it I was meeting the guys who were serial daters and not looking for a relationship or con artist or scammers who were looking to mooch off of a women and then of course the perverted guys that were looking to hook up, they made it known immediately what they wanted to do with you sexually.
It sucked to me. I'm happy for the people who go on to find real relationships from these sites, I've had zero luck. I'm not surprised at your results. The men weren't feisty with your profile because it's not what they are lusting after.
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Men are only angry at profiles of the trophy girls who respond with iciness, insults or silence. She must be thin, usually blonde with light eyes, primarily Caucasian. Use that profile pic and you'll see the firestorm of interest. With the chick you used the men will only be nice because they're not ego invested in her at all.
Also you didn't turn any of the men down to get a response. So you didn't give them a reason to invest in you. Just wait until you turn guys down as a blonde. That's when you better put up your photon force fields. All those blogs you read of women being confronted with nasty emails are basically white chicks bragging that they are the coveted princesses in this country. They have a litany of suitors after them who see them as dating status symbols and they set up blogs basically to complain to the world that the population of men isn't picture perfect like in a Maxim magazine.
The white chicks are so used to the endless attention they make a sport of rejecting these guys or luring the guys on with empty promises for fun. It's this random chaos and disrespect the men deal with when pursuing their dream girls that is the source of all online vitriol. So when the girls turn these guys down they get revenge emails like balls of fire.
Your chick is just a boring safe brunette so who cares what she does? The chick you put up isn't anyone's idea of a girlfriend, more like a one night stand. That's why you got no controversy from her. I've only used okcupid. A woman, 29 years old, been on for 6 months. My experience is not very pleasant as well. I find it strange, that so many men here say, that they are looking for a relationship.
Yes, its true, that most women get lots of attention, but that doesn't mean anything. All girls that i know, want to find an actual boyfriend, and hopefully, eventually, someone to move in with, get married, have kids etc. But the vast majority of the guys just want to "chill and netflix". Sometimes, i feel like women are a bit more honest. If we don't respond, we are not interted - that's it. Sorry, we can't be interested in every single person that messages us. Sometimes, there might be nothing wrong with you, but we all have our types and dealbreakers.
I keep finding guys who seem interested in me, but whenever things get too serious for their liking, they run away like crazy. I'd rarher be ignored, than led on till i start developing feelings just to have my heart broken. I'm not even talking about numerous people asking if i want to come to their place tonight or if i want to be their slave or want them to be my slave or if i'm into oral sex right of the bat. I'd rather see that and just block them, than meeting someone who seems nice and genuine, and then to find out they are just players, use me or just not ready for a relationship.
I haven't had chemistry with most of the people I met, so we never went on the 2nd date. But here are 3 guys, that i thought we were getting somewhere with, and they all left me heartbroken:. The first guy i met was ok. I was recently out of a 5 year relationship, he was out of a long relationship too. We had too many drinks and ended up having sex pretty fast. I thought he'd think i'm way too easy and will never talk to me again. Instead, we started seeing each other regularly. I wasn't that much into him, but i was still not recovered from my past relationship and, i guess, wanted to have someone there for me.
He was in a similar position, so it all seemed to be working well. Eventually, he started treating me better and better. We never talked about being exclusive, defining our relationship, yet we'd spend lots of time together, we'd go out, hold hands, kiss and make out in public with no problem, he was making me dinners, help with manly stuff around the house etc.
So i have slowly started falling for him. I even made a house party once, and invited him, and he came and met all of my friends. It lasted for about a month. One day i was driving, and saw him walking and holding hands with another girl and we live in a big city and not in the same area. What are the chances? I confronted him about it later, and he said how he never said he wanted a relationship, he is just out of one, and he enjoys his time with me, but he is not ready for a new one and wants to see what's out there.
I didn't like the 2nd guy i met right away.
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He wasn't physically attractive to me, but he was really funny and interesting to talk to. I would have loved him to be my friend if we haven't met on the dating website. He kept asking me out. I decided to go out with him a few more times, just because he was fun to be around, but never felt any chemistry. Even felt bad for leading him on, but kept seeing other guys. He started pursing me like crazy, he was very very nice to me, so eventually i have started liking him. I have enjoyed being treated like a princess and thought to myself "wow, this guy is really nice and is really into me, who else would treat me like that?
And i decided to give it a chance and started developing feelings too. After 2 months, we were hanging out one evening, and he started going on and on about how he can't believe that he met someone so amazing online, how he did't expect this to happen, how he is sick of online dating and doesn't wanna see anyone else. So we talked and decided to make it serious and delete our profiles in front of each other. So all was great, no problems, fights or other issues. Again, why start and waste 2 months of my life?
The last guy, was actually the first one i have liked instantly. I wasn't expecting that, but i really liked him the moment i met him. He seemed interested too. He complained to me about online dating from male point of view, how most of the women he met are boring. He is highly educated and is very picky about intelligence of women he dates, and he said he was amazed by me, because he felt it was so easy to talk to me right away, i'm smart and attractive.
He was asking me out every days which was unusual and it told me he is really into me. He was also very nice to me and we could talk forever. He has to wake up early for work, but we were still talking and making out till late when we saw each other. After 3 weeks, i had crazy feelings for him, and he seemed to have too. He canceled one of the dates for seemingly legit reason.
I was cool about it, and told him that its ok, and we can see each other some other time. After that, he became very distant. Disappeared for a few days, then messaged again apologizing telling me about the problems he had. Then he would just randomly message me every few days, but never offered to go out again. And eventually just stopped messaging me. I think men and women gave different problems with online dating, but we ha e it equally hard. Guys don't get responses, women find players.
I completely agree with what a lot of men are saying. I was married 30 years only to be violently attacked by an alcoholic wife. I set myself out there and the women just play games. They say stupid things and just look for attention. I'm seriously disappointed in what appears to be the feminist movement in this country.
They try to use their sexual prowess instead of their intelligence, which most are seriously lacking, and again, play games. They are not serious and don't care about a good relationship. I'm sure it's true there are a lot of men jerks but we are all stereotyped that way. Please be ladies OK? Have some respect for the opposite sex and if you're not serious just stay the heck away all right? There are good men like me out there.
And you ladies that look so good in your photographs are just absolutely narcissistic and hideous with the way you speak to us. Please get over yourselves and take your meaningless time wasting profiles down and go gaggle in the mirror at yourself. It's really too bad.
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I have been giving this a good shot for months and actually have made a few good friends but have run into so many Queen bees that I am ready to give up. It is really is a waste of money and time. Every review that I read about online dating is a bad one. The whole industry is sickening; praying on the people that yearn to love and be happy only to let them down.
In one state in Australia where I live I've found it even more difficult to meet a good, down-to-earth woman online. I don't put women on pedestal, had my fair share of relatioships but I"m also shy and busy so i'd really like to see some online dating work. I'm in no rush, but why can't I just find a healthy smart woman who is NOT self-obsessed, for some good online conversation??
At least most guys get some kind of comment. I was on four different popular sites in the last few years I got only a wink or very short text and just one.
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Met only one woman at a car show for two hours then she got a call and had to get going. I'm real shy too but I feel I sent out some really good icebreaker messages, I put a lot of thought into them, to always sound upbeat and funny. But never got any comment, not even a thanks but no thanks, seems like they don't even get them, but the scammers sure answer quick with a too good to be true letter and great pictures. I was married for fourteen years and divorced for eleven.
Was her idea for the split, shes remarried a few years I can't even get a date yet. Think she put a curse on me lol. Can't believe so many people jump in bed on the first date, both sexes. It's that kind of life style that hurts so many people,that nobody trust anybody anymore and I can't say that I blame them. Which I've never done before, maybe this will work, who ever reads this might know of somebody through the grape vine.
I know there's good ones out there I just read some of there letters here. There's too many bad ones out there in the way of us good one's. I Know this is a little off the wall but I'll give it a shot. If there's any good one's out there please I'd love to meet you. I'm trying something different, by, bypassing all the dating services. Because, really from the comments I've read about all these dating sites. There's a lot of unhappy people out there, wish they'd quit playing games and say what they really think, that's what I try to do.
The same pigs have shown up on all of the dating apps I have used. I originally started with plenty of fish, where I met two very good long-term friends, but no romantic chemistry. The majority of the other users were soliciting inappropriate photos and sending them as well. A few mentally unstable messages followed rejections.
There are just as many people looking for hook ups on match. Disappointing as to what society has become.